A gracious spirit enhances a woman’s demeanour, while a selfish heart tarnishes her appearance and limits her effectiveness.  The word “gracious” is used to describe God Himself (Ex. 34:6, Neh. 9:17; Ps 111:4).

Abigail was a gracious woman. She realised and accepted her husband’s weak habits (1 Sam. 25:23-31).  She poised herself before David with respect, kindness, and courtesy.  Yet in so doing she sowed deference to her husband and others by taking upon herself responsibility for the lack of hospitality.

The Moabitess Ruth was a quiet woman whose perseverance complemented her beauty.  She was gracious to her mother-in-law even when Naomi was absorbed in bitterness and self-pity (Ruth 2:2).  Her strong character and gracious manner were eventually rewarded with a devoted husband and important offspring (Ruth 4:13).

Having experienced God’s forgiveness and love should increase a woman’s sensitivity to another’s needs.  A condescending or resentful attitude does not exemplify graciousness.  Believers are challenged to be gracious, kind, merciful, and forgiving (Neh. 9:17).

A Christian reflects God’s kingdom by words spoken.  Wise words are gracious, but foolish words are damaging (Eccl. 10:12).  Believers are also admonished to speak with kindness and truth (Col. 3:12-13).  Words can scar the heart and forever damage a reputation and relationship.  To possess graciousness is to showcase His love and channel His care to a needy world.

“THE WORDS OF A WISE (WO)MAN’S MOUTH ARE GRACIOUS, BUT THE LIPS OF A FOOL SHALL SWALLOW HIM(HER) UP”.  ECCL 10:12

As an end in itself, graciousness or charm is merely a pleasing manner which has been developed through painstaking determination to do certain things in order to win favour of family and friends.  In other words, it is an outward polish or refinement.  However, if this graciousness s the fruit of godly character, springing from a heart committed to the Lord, then such charm becomes a tool for drawing others to the Saviour and for service to Christ in the Kingdom.  Such a “gracious” woman retains great honour.